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I’ve been thinking a lot lately about moving to somewhere more conducive to leading a peaceful life. I know it’s who you are and not where you are that matters but something more conducive to that quiet direction may help. Declutter, so to speak. I have some land in mind which I’m going to see. Stick on a livable container and rent out my current place, using the money from that to live on. 6 years to go until my commitment to society ends. 6 years to plan.




Back in Feb 2016 I wrote a post about the 9 steps to live by. In that, number 7 was to “Make my own path in life”. I wrote these steps down back in 2005 after building them up over time since the early 80’s when my character was forming. Perhaps, really, when you think about it, since birth back in ‘64. I’m that old.
Very happily, in 2012, I strayed from my path. For the first time, fell deeply, madly and very stupidly “in love” and followed another’s path for 1 year. At the end of the loving relationship we split but remain good friends, to this day.
I was utterly lost.
Unfortunately, being the kind of person I am, I cannot move on. I have tried and failed a few times to get back to my own path. To be who I was supposed to be.
I am still lost.
Back in 2013, in an alternate blog, I wrote the following comment.
“I understand why people have to avoid their partners when their relationship ends. It’s so their heart doesn’t break”.
People have this self preservation and have to avoid, get angry or even end up hating their partners. They don’t really hate. I cannot believe people could go from loving to hating. I can certainly see love fading away but going from love to hate in a very short time doesn’t ring true unless it’s for self preservation. You cannot love them so you have to hate. You have to break away from their love in order to survive and move on. To avoid your heart breaking.
So this is where I am.
I cannot hate.
My heart is broken.
I look for peace.
It’s 5 years on.
…and I still love her.

Life’s Purpose


Over at there’s an article from Joanie Faletto you can find your life’s purpose using Ikigai, a Japanese concept which you ask yourself 4 questions.

  1. What do you love?
  2. What are you good at?
  3. What does the world need from you?
  4. What can you get paid for?

If you can find your one thing that answers all 4, you’ve got it made.
Good luck.


Letting Go


An interesting read, regarding the Power of Letting Go. Not so sure about the 14 pages of selecting “next” but then, It is what it is. Nice article, though.


Just BE


Came to a realisation today whilst walking around outside, looking at some trees thinking they will more than likely be there after I die and that is OK. Everything will be fine. it will just BE.


A Smile


I was lying in bed just thinking of past loves and what they had in common. The following quote formed in my mind.
“Of all the sexiest curves that you have, the most beautiful is your smile.”
There is something truely wonderful meaningful spiritual about a smile.
A great thought to start the day.


100 Years


I was watching The Terminator the other day and a seemingly innocent remark from Nancy, played by Shawn Schepps, in the restaurant jumped out at me. “Look at it this way. In 100 years, who’s gonna care”.
Quotes can crop up in surprising places.




As a tribe of one, I move quietly, peacefully, to extinction.


Tai Chi


A nice video on Learning the 24 steps of Tai Chi. I hope it’s available in your country.


Gardening Update



Daffodils and grape hyacinths

Crocuses and Irises

Path to Peace

The garden is starting to take on a look. Bulbs are growing and flowering. Bees are buzzing, peace is happening. I’ve sown the wildflower seeds and sweet peas too so they should come up sometime in summer. I did get an extra few daffodil bulbs from a friend who was moving and wanted to keep the. So they’re on loan until they find a garden worthy of their presence.